Well, I just wanted to Try out and see if youtube videos Work on this site. I really have a couple of Things I really wanted to show you guys if anyone is really reading my Livejournal, I dont really care though since this isnt intended to go Mainstream, If in any case it actually does go mainstream ill just be happy alot of people like what I say. But for now im just small and Glad to be a part of Something where I can express my daily Feelings. The current video is the only one I could find that was decent for a song I really like Called "Dont save us from the Flames, By M83.
On my last post yesterday I Mentioned I will be Giving tips on how to Romance and basically Get the Girl or whatever you want.
So At the end of Every post I will be giving small little hints on how to improve youre daily output on what you do, basically any problem that you might have hehe. Dont worry girls this goes for you too, Ever wanted to know how to get that Guy youve always wanted but couldnt really say anything? This might just help you as well.
Also, If you want to know something Certain just PM me or Comment on every post for any question you could have, Ill try my best to get back at you ASAP ;D
Mmk, So today is Friday. Firday is usually a ritual day for me, I get up, Go to school and come back, Sleep then plan what im going to do at the last minute, Most of the time my best friend Gabe dosent have anything planned either (unless he or me gets a call earlier that said week and we are inquired to do something with an other). so we head on out, meet up and plan at the last second what to do. We usually end up doing the same thing every friday anyways lol. Meet up, check movie times, if the movies suck, we call friends and try to make a mini house party, And if all else fails, Night Clubbing. Oh yeah hahaha.
Its currently 3pm, I got up about 2hrs ago from my after-school friday nap haha. It feels good to sleep, it really does.
Last night was pretty good as well since I stayed up until around 4am, talking to this really amazing Girl. Her names Veni and I wont say anything else because who knows what kinds of stalkers there are on this site. Anyways, I met her about 3years ago when Gabe had his Bvarmitzvah. Yes as you probobly imagine'd shes his sister, Half sister technically, but his sister lol, It was her Birthday yesterday night so I was on webcam seeing her and her friends while they saw me as well (Im too lazy to use propper Grammer, Bear with me lol...). So we had a video call for a while and she and her friends were like Super hotzorz, I felt like I was in heaven playing it cool and all. Her one friend I swear I would date her in a heartbeat if she was single, Morgan. She has a shizload in common with me and its really scary how she seems so much like my friend Shawna From Massachusets. But Shes actually alot more Open and Listens to a ton of music I like. Recently this whole Indie output ive been having is giving me a social boost and makes it easier to find things in common with people since Im super akward sometimes. I try to Deflect my akwardness away from me by being super random, and most of the time it works like a charm.
So Now that Ive gotten what I did last night and probobly what im going to be doing today I think Ill give you a couple of Updates on 2-3 bands I really like.
Mmk, I wonder how many people has heard of Bloc Party, If for one do not really like most of their songs but I cant help but love their Singles "Helicopter" and "Banquet". I mean seriously lol, They are addictive at times.
This might seem really oldish but I really am enjoying Listening to 3 Days Grace, This band Is hella Good, The vocals in some songs make Maryln Manson seem like a pussy. Like the Song "I hate everything about you" When he gets to the Chorus its like having an Eargasm.
Personally to me, I think the entire Maserati Album Inventions of the New Season Shouldve been in the soundtrack for Halo 2 or at least some kick-ass game like starcraft hahaha. Still, Its really good if you like Bands with no vocals that shred cool lycs for kick-ass backround music.
Mmk, Thats about if for bands today haha, If you liked them please comment as well if you actually are reading this~
OK! SO! heres my : Daily Tip of the Day, For those who want to give a better social output and or Get girls or at least know how to meet people haha, Whatever.
To start off Id like to thank a big community which I wont talk about much right now, but Later on I might. And to thank my best friend For bare'ing with my crap everyday and keeping me strong, A friendship of Brothers is hard to come by.
Fitness programs require you to weigh in on the first day. Finnancial Plans ask for a list of assets and debts. So to Revamp your social life, you'll need to make a social Assesment of yourself. So your first task is to write and answer the following questions.
Dont care what other people might think since to get ahead in what you want, you need to be tottally honest with yourself.
1. Write 1 or 2 sentences describing how you believe other people Currently percieve you.
2. Write 1 or 2 sentences describing how youd like to be percieved by others.
3. List 3 of your behaviors or generalities you would like to change.
4. List 3 new behaviors or generalities you would like to adopt.
Now You have some Goals you would like to accomplish! :D
Dont you feel slightly better that you have something that you actually want to get to do?
A life without Goals is a hallow one. Have you ever wanted something so bad you just needed to have it when you saw it. And when you finnally got it you realized how normal and ok it is now that you have it. Thats a hallow feeling. But the Process of aquiring it, was like a mission! something you had to accomplish, and that adds more flame to your soul! So Take these questions and answer them with every truth you can think of, You can write more or less than the number required so just go for it. But you need to be completely Honest!
Now that you have some goals I want you to know a couple of things that limits social behavior between most people.
When I started studying psychology around 10 by googling around Human traits, characteristics, behaviors, etc. it became very clear that most people have beliefs that arent true for shit. These are called Limiters, What I need you to do is read this with utmost care and attention!
1st limiting belief: If I talk to a random person, They might just ignore me or call me out and Embaress me.
Reality: The harder it is to talk to someone random or someone youve never met before, The less likely it is that you'll be rudely Rejected. Why is that? Because most people have been raised to be courtious and polite unless they feel threatend, and a a shy guy or girl isnt too likely to intimidate anyone. The worst Thing that might happen is that they will politely say they are busy or will simply excuse themselfs. Playing Negative what-if scenarios in your head is detrimental to your emotional Health. Instead of staying at home, Go out and meet new people, Youll be surprised at how they react differently than most of those scenarios in your head.
2nd Limiting belief: People are looking at me, judging me on everything that I do.
Reality: This is Half right. People constantly look around and think what they want for other people. But Id like you to take something into account. First, Whens the last time you made fun of somebody in your head? Did you tell anyone about it? The likeliness of you doing this is the same likeliness as the other person is. We are all human and most of us have the same output. So in turn when you think theyre making fun of you when you get looked at or smiled at, It might be the same thing you think when you smile or look at someone else. After all, People May notice you but it dosent mean theyre necessarily Judging you, Most people are constantly worrying about what other people think of them. Once you realize that most people are like you and that theyre actually seeking your approval youll start to become socially Fearless.
3rd Limiting Belief: Women are'nt attracted to nice guys. They like Jerks.
Reality: This is one of the oldest myths about dating. And fortunately its inaccurate. Its not actually Nice guys, good boys or bad boys, But really Weaker and Stronger Males. Most nice guys I know are the type that say they tried their best but hardly did anything. They are like the Doormats of Society. Woman are Drawn to men who demonstrate their Strength, dose'nt have to be physical, but women like to feel safe and secure. So you can still be nice but you also have to be strong.
However, make sure you know what nice means. Most guys who define themselfs as too nice only behave nicely because they want everybody to like them and dont want anyone to think badly of them. So if this is you, Get off your nice horse and don't mistake being fearful and weak-minded for being nice.
4th Limiting Belief: Im not good looking, Rich, or famous enough to be with that very hot Person (Guys and girls)
Reality: There are plenty of Rock Stars and multi millionares who share the same exact problem as you do. I know this because you might think celebritys are getting hot girls but all they are is dating other celebritys for publicty, etc. Think about it, How many celebrities have been with random beautiful women or hot guys in a relationship? NOT MANY.
I learned that money, looks, fame, while they certainly make things easier, arent actually necessary. Fortunately for men, the way we look dosent matter as much nearly as how we present ourselfs. And this requires grooming, clothing that conveys an attractive personality. For girls its harder to find that right man when about 80% of what they like in a girl is their looks, For women it dosent take that much either though, If you have an attractive personality then youll be able to get away with about 50% of that look filter men have. When it comes to wealth and fame simply displaying our identity the desire and ability to achive them can be just as powerfull, Thats why we have goals in our life. Like talent scouts many women are attracted to me with goals and potential. As guys are attracted to women who are ok with most things they like and do and dont complain as much (Sorry but its a fact, Most guys are shallow).
5th Limiting Belief: Theres this one Person...
Reality: Theres many men and women in this world that you could like or love. if youre hung out on one particular person you just cant get out of your mind, and she hasnt given you any sense that she shares the Feelings, Then Recognize its not love as a feeling but an obsession. And that obsession is likely to scare that person away. The best you can do for yourself and for the other is go out and interact with many other people of the Opposite sex until you realize that there are plenty of People out there for you, Some of whom are capable of Recognizing your worth and reciprocating your feelings.
6th limiting belief: Some people are born with the ability to charm another. Other guys just dont have it.
Reality: Fortunately, Theres a third type of person, One who can learn it. And thats me. And once you understand how attraction and socialization works and have a few succesfull approaches under you belt, itll be you too. Any problems you may currently be having arent the result of who you are, but what youre doing and how youre presenting yourself. Those probelms can be fixed easily with the right knowledge and a little Practice.
7th Limiting Belief: All I have to do is "Be myself" and eventually ill meet the Right Guy/Girl. who likes me for me.
Reality: This only works if you know exactly who you are, what your strengths are, and how to convey them succesfully. Most often, This statement is used as an excuse not to improve. What most of us present to the world isnt necessarily our true self: Its a combination of years of bad habits and fear-based behavior. Out real self lies buried underneath all of those insecurities and inhibitions. So rather than just being yourself Focus on discovering and permanatly bringing to the surface your best self.
8th Limitling Belief: To figure out what women or men want, Just ask them.
Reality: This may be true sometimes, But not as often as many people think. it wasnt until I started trying behaviors that seemed counterintuitive that I discovered a key principle in this: What women or men want isnt necessarliy what they respond to. Furthermore, what they say they want isnt necessarily what they want in a relationship, but it isnt always what attraccts them during courtship period. That said, Most people with give you the info on what you need to attract them, But its usually found inbetween the lines.
9th limiting belief: If I approach a person, theyll know im hitting on them and itll be lame.
Reality: This is only partly true, Women or men think this is only when they get approached badly. This includes the person who makes them uncomfortable, creep them out, or seem to have an agenda. The biggest mistake a person can make when hitting on another is hitting on them before their attracted to you. And though this describes the so called technique of Most men, its a mistake youll want to avoid. Just keep following my daily tips and youll see! :D
Few people will resent meeting someone who is warm, funny, sincere, engaging, makes them feel comfortable, and isnt going to stick around talking their ear off.
Limiting belief 10: Women dont like sex as much as men do. Theyre mostly interested in having a relationship (For guys only lol)
Reality: If you believe that, you havent spent enough time around women. Here are a few facts that may help dispel that belief: Its women, rarely men, who have an organ soley made for sexual pleasure: The Clitoris, which has twise as many nerve endings as a mans entire penis. And its women, not men, whose orgasms can last minutes or longer. Most men have just one orgasm and they lose their arousal; Most women can have countless number of orgasms and many different types (Which I will not get into right now lol), But i will say its their whole downstairs and psycholagnic (Look it up). In short, Good sex is even better for women than it is for us. So dosent it make sense that they want it more?
To finish with this, I want you to Do something for youself, Whether youre a girl or a guy I need you to do something if you ever want to be more social. I want you to make small talk with five strangers today. It dosent matter whether young, old, men, women, Friendly or unfriendly. The stranger can be a business man on the street, an old lady in the supermarket line, a hostess at a restaurant, a homeless person, Etc. The goal is to simply start a conversation.
It dosent have to progress beyond a comment or response. If Idle chatter dosent come naturally to you then scan the news headlines before you leave home. Small topics include, Wheather, Sports Current events, Etertainment, etc.
Remember the answer dosent matter, whether you recieve a long story or a cursory grunt in response, Youve completed this task by simply opening your mouth and talking to someone.